For the initial couple of weeks of springtime, I was kicking it in lazy mode. I was really slacking on my fashion and grooming. I figured that I already looked sharp enough to meet my romantic needs. The girls kept coming into my bedroom, so I figured things were cool.
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
A United States Navy officer was there with us that day. He had only been in Japan for a few months and his only input into the conversation was, "I'm just going to assume they're all sluts."
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
Remember, this sorting process is purely subconscious. It's essentially a flinch reaction no different from an MLB slugger's ability to react to 90mph fastballs based on visual cues from the pitcher's wind up and release.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
A United States Navy officer was there with us that day. He had only been in Japan for a few months and his only input into the conversation was, "I'm just going to assume they're all sluts."
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
Remember, this sorting process is purely subconscious. It's essentially a flinch reaction no different from an MLB slugger's ability to react to 90mph fastballs based on visual cues from the pitcher's wind up and release.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com