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Learning To Take The Forward Look In Spite Of Difficulties

By Francis Riggs


There are two absolute truths in life, they say: death and taxes. There are also a million other challenges and problems along the way that prevent the forward look. It is inevitable that you will experience adversity at times and you will do so repetitively through life. Looking back to evaluate what went wrong is second nature, but it should not destroy a positive anticipation of a better future to come.

Look ahead and you will feel more alive. You will cut the cord of negativity as you move on. You can't avoid mistakes, but you can go on to new opportunities. Get over it, people say, and they are absolutely right. Face the tough times with aplomb. Learn from them with maturity and wisdom. It is hard to accept hurting other people, for example, and taking the blame. You can start over or seek new relationships. In any case, a new view of life is at hand.

Accept the bad situation. If it is a mistake, know exactly what went wrong. If it is a person, recognize what exactly made you angry with him. Acceptance is the first step. If you do not know where square one is, you will not know if you have stepped to step 2 or leaped to step 6. If you do not accept your current situation, you do not have a place to look back to once you have succeeded.

Yes, you have to avoid the same mistakes and that takes reflection. But the outcome of your pondering should influence what is to come. You can come up with suggests for improvement and coping next time. The past is done and gone. You can make amends to people negatively affected, but you need not dwell on atonement. It will erode self-confidence. Speak your mind and move on.

Getting counsel helps some people cope better with personal mistakes. It is vital when there is depression and anxiety about them. You need to look beyond your own resources. In fact, it is a sign of strength to look outside oneself. If it has to do with bad habits like smoking or interrupting people in conversation, there are professional techniques that work well. Don't overlook the obvious.

Ask help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It means you are strong enough to move on and be a better person. If you want to quit smoking for example, and you have accepted it and want to change, you cannot do it if your smoking buddy continues to ask you to go out for a puff.

Find mentors and guides through life who will help focus your thoughts and attitudes. You want strong people who have insight and wisdom. We all have possibilities among our friends and colleagues. It could be a family member, a pastor, or a priest. Use these connections to advance your life and they will help keep you on a solid track.

Of great importance to note, God is there to listen, so speak freely through daily prayer. You will feel renewed and refreshed as a result. There may be no better way to accept adversity than beseeching the Lord for help. This has been the most valuable recourse for many a wayward soul.




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