It is often the things that we want the most that become the most elusive to us. Never has this been more true than when we're talking about romantic relationships. If your ex has left you and you are trying to rebuild this relationship, your efforts at this point very well might be futile at the moment. Often right after a relationship, an ex will be stubborn and resistant to talking or even considering getting back together. While you struggle with the pain and you hear the age old advice to move on from your ex and your friends, time is passing. Time moves very slowly when we are waiting for something that we desire and the best thing to do at this point is to keep yourself busy and look to the future.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
Taking a step back and diving head first into a business might be just what you need right now. Your focus will no longer be on your ex, what they're doing, what you can do to get them back or what went wrong in the past. Your focus will be on building something wonderful that will serve you, your life and very well the life that you build with your ex in the future. You will also have an easier time understanding what went wrong in your relationship once your mind is no longer obsessing about your ex. In addition, if you had been putting a lot of pressure on your ex to get back together, focusing on something else, such as a business, will remove that pressure. You might be surprised by the changes in your ex once you back off and begin focusing on your own life for a change. Starting a small business is a great way to do that while achieving something that most people only dream of.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
A little trick that you might want to try is to post a lot of photos of your journey to social networking sites that your ex might be using to check up on you with. Take photos of yourself traveling to your destination as well as some photos of yourself having a good time. The fact that you're happy and enjoying life will make your ex jealous. You might worry that your ex will be offended that you are happy without them but remember, it was their choice to leave. It wasn't your decision. Nothing bad is going to happen because you are enjoying life. Your ex will actually find you more attractive. If they do say anything about your trip you can simply explain that you were grieving and you needed to get away to clear your mind and improve your mood.
General self-improvement should be a goal of yours after your breakup. Taking up yoga, kick-boxing or meditation are all things that you can do to expand your mind and make your life better after your breakup. Taking classes, learning a new language or even getting your pilot's license are a few other ideas for things that you can do to improve your life and make life more interesting for you.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
Taking a step back and diving head first into a business might be just what you need right now. Your focus will no longer be on your ex, what they're doing, what you can do to get them back or what went wrong in the past. Your focus will be on building something wonderful that will serve you, your life and very well the life that you build with your ex in the future. You will also have an easier time understanding what went wrong in your relationship once your mind is no longer obsessing about your ex. In addition, if you had been putting a lot of pressure on your ex to get back together, focusing on something else, such as a business, will remove that pressure. You might be surprised by the changes in your ex once you back off and begin focusing on your own life for a change. Starting a small business is a great way to do that while achieving something that most people only dream of.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
A little trick that you might want to try is to post a lot of photos of your journey to social networking sites that your ex might be using to check up on you with. Take photos of yourself traveling to your destination as well as some photos of yourself having a good time. The fact that you're happy and enjoying life will make your ex jealous. You might worry that your ex will be offended that you are happy without them but remember, it was their choice to leave. It wasn't your decision. Nothing bad is going to happen because you are enjoying life. Your ex will actually find you more attractive. If they do say anything about your trip you can simply explain that you were grieving and you needed to get away to clear your mind and improve your mood.
General self-improvement should be a goal of yours after your breakup. Taking up yoga, kick-boxing or meditation are all things that you can do to expand your mind and make your life better after your breakup. Taking classes, learning a new language or even getting your pilot's license are a few other ideas for things that you can do to improve your life and make life more interesting for you.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
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