The emotions often associated with a breakup are sadness, emotional pain and loneliness. The pain you are feeling is very real and the blow that your ego has take is real. After all, the one person you trusted with your heart has rejected you and left you. You feel like you simply can not be happy until you have your ex back in your life again. You mind spins as you explore options and make plans to win your ex back but all your efforts seem to only make your ex more distant and cold. You want to live again but life without your ex is a cold, dark place. What should you do and how can you rekindle the love that your ex once felt for you? How do you begin to live again without your ex?
This may sound strange but happiness is the key to your success. Happiness will heal your heart as well as help you to achieve the correct attitude that will be necessary to attract your ex's attention and have them fall in love with you again. You might say that it's impossible for you to be happy right now. You're sad and depressed. You may even feel that your sad emotional state will prove to your ex that you still love them. You're afraid to let go of that pain. You link that pain with love and you are afraid to let that love die.
You might be feel bad the first time you laugh or start to feel better after your breakup. Your pain replaced the love that you and your ex once shared but it is not useful for you now. Your life and your days are not better when you mourn that loss. You are actually pushing people away from you and you become undesirable to the people around you and your ex when you are sad and depressed. Becoming happy again is a sign of strength and others will admire you for trying to heal and move on with your life. It has been proven that we avoid people who are overly emotional and distraught. This includes your ex. On the other hand, your ex will become more attracted and interested in you if you are happy, full of life and optimistic about your future. Your ex very well might fear being left in the past as your life moves on.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
Even though you love your ex and find them attractive, understand that there are other fish in the sea. Go window shopping at the mall and observe all the attractive people that you see. Check out a dating website just to do some research and you will find that there are other people out there just like you who are single and looking for someone to spend time with. This doesn't mean that you have to contact them or go on a date right now but it might be an option in the future if your ex doesn't realize what they're missing. There are many very attractive people who simply don't have time to go looking for a partner. This is where you will often find them.
Spending time alone can be very difficult at first. Once you begin making your life more interesting and you start treating yourself well you will find that life isn't so bad. You will create new routines and you will find your own happiness that isn't dependent upon your ex. Your life will become more dynamic and interesting to your ex also and this is when your ex will probably pop back into your life. It is a strange phenomenon but one that you will find is true. As soon as you don't need your ex in your life anymore, that is when they will creep back in and want to spend time with you. Be strong, love yourself and be happy starting today. Live the kind of life that is attractive to anyone and you will find that very soon things will begin to change with your ex for the better.
This may sound strange but happiness is the key to your success. Happiness will heal your heart as well as help you to achieve the correct attitude that will be necessary to attract your ex's attention and have them fall in love with you again. You might say that it's impossible for you to be happy right now. You're sad and depressed. You may even feel that your sad emotional state will prove to your ex that you still love them. You're afraid to let go of that pain. You link that pain with love and you are afraid to let that love die.
You might be feel bad the first time you laugh or start to feel better after your breakup. Your pain replaced the love that you and your ex once shared but it is not useful for you now. Your life and your days are not better when you mourn that loss. You are actually pushing people away from you and you become undesirable to the people around you and your ex when you are sad and depressed. Becoming happy again is a sign of strength and others will admire you for trying to heal and move on with your life. It has been proven that we avoid people who are overly emotional and distraught. This includes your ex. On the other hand, your ex will become more attracted and interested in you if you are happy, full of life and optimistic about your future. Your ex very well might fear being left in the past as your life moves on.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
Even though you love your ex and find them attractive, understand that there are other fish in the sea. Go window shopping at the mall and observe all the attractive people that you see. Check out a dating website just to do some research and you will find that there are other people out there just like you who are single and looking for someone to spend time with. This doesn't mean that you have to contact them or go on a date right now but it might be an option in the future if your ex doesn't realize what they're missing. There are many very attractive people who simply don't have time to go looking for a partner. This is where you will often find them.
Spending time alone can be very difficult at first. Once you begin making your life more interesting and you start treating yourself well you will find that life isn't so bad. You will create new routines and you will find your own happiness that isn't dependent upon your ex. Your life will become more dynamic and interesting to your ex also and this is when your ex will probably pop back into your life. It is a strange phenomenon but one that you will find is true. As soon as you don't need your ex in your life anymore, that is when they will creep back in and want to spend time with you. Be strong, love yourself and be happy starting today. Live the kind of life that is attractive to anyone and you will find that very soon things will begin to change with your ex for the better.
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