The emotions that you're feeling in the wake of your breakup are perfectly normal. The doubt and despair as well as the confusion and sadness over your loss strike your heart like an arrow. Trying to sort out what your ex might be feeling can leave you perplexed and grasping at straws as you attempt to decipher what your ex says and what they do. Does your ex still love you or was it all a dream?
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Try to resist the urge to talk about the breakup or anything having to do with getting back together. You can be glad to hear their voice or happy to receive their message but keep you wits about you. Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself concerning getting back together. If you feel that you aren't ready to see your ex at the moment, find an excuse to put off meeting with them or avoid their phone call for the moment. It is crucially important that you exude confidence and happiness at this point in the process of getting back together. Your actions and body language will speak volumes so resist the temptation and don't speak about getting back together until they voice their desire.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Try to resist the urge to talk about the breakup or anything having to do with getting back together. You can be glad to hear their voice or happy to receive their message but keep you wits about you. Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself concerning getting back together. If you feel that you aren't ready to see your ex at the moment, find an excuse to put off meeting with them or avoid their phone call for the moment. It is crucially important that you exude confidence and happiness at this point in the process of getting back together. Your actions and body language will speak volumes so resist the temptation and don't speak about getting back together until they voice their desire.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
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