Feeling weak as a man after a breakup can be a common feeling. Not many of us guys have come through a breakup without shedding a few tears and the emotions involved with having someone you love reject you can be devastating. The frustration that comes along with knowing that you could make things right if your girlfriend or wife would just listen to you can add to your pain. If you had a choice, you would probably choose some sort of physical pain over this emotional pain. In such a case, you would know how long the healing process would take and you could plan accordingly. In the case of emotional pain, you have no idea if it will ever end or it feels this way at the moment.
Now, it doesn't matter if we're talking about your wife or your girlfriend. The pain from a breakup and the way that women behave in either relationship is exactly the same. A piece of paper and sworn oaths have been proven in today's society to carry as much weight as the paper they're written on. The process of getting from being broken up to getting back together are also the same. The process or stages that we're going to talk about will bring you to the point where you will have that opportunity to rebuild your relationship and it is based upon military principles. If these principles can get a combat veteran through a difficult time emotionally then they can bring you through your pain as well.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Beating yourself up or being upset with yourself over something that you did in the past is not healthy or helpful. You can see that you did things wrong but it is simply impossible to change the past. Removing the emotions from these incidents is necessary for your healing as well as for your success in the future. You are like a soldier who is learning from a past battle and becoming educated about what works and what doesn't. Freeing yourself from this emotional baggage is necessary for your success in the future. You are living and learning from the past.
In the next step you will be rebuilding yourself back into the man that you once were, but better. You have been through a lot so you deserve to be treated well. This means taking some time to decompress and enjoy your life for a short while before it is time to get back to work. This is called rest and relaxation. Do the things that make you happy and which make life worth living. Rest assured in knowing that you have the ability to get your girlfriend or wife back but right now is your moment to do some things that bring a smile to your face.
While many soldier go a little crazy and begin drinking like fish, you might want to avoid alcohol for the moment. It might be tempting to party hardy but this kind of activity can sometimes cause even the strongest man to fall back into old patterns of behavior. A moment of weakness might cause you to call your ex and proclaim your undying love for her or even want to see her again so you can tell her how much better you're feeling. Avoid this temptation at all cost. This is not the time to see your girlfriend and you should be strong and of sober mind when that moment does come. You need to have your life together completely before initiating contact with your ex. Get out of town or visit friends for a weekend. Go to the shore or to another city to allow yourself to unwind and decompress. This might help you to avoid the desire to see your ex also.
When you return home, it's time to start getting back into shape mentally, emotionally and physically. It's time to start taking care of yourself and training for your big comeback. It's time to education yourself about relationships and how women behave in relationships. Look at this as your training to get back in there and win your ex girlfriend or wife back. Learn about her, what makes her tick and why she reacts the way that she does when she's in a relationship. Women behave much differently than men. They are emotional. Men are logical. Train that logical part of your brain to target her emotions and you will be well on your way to winning her back.
Getting your girlfriend or wife back might seem impossible at this moment but, as you can see, it is a simple process of moving past the pain and hurt, rebuilding yourself and then understanding and doing those things that will attract her again. You have the advantage in this situation. You have a logical mind. Once you remove the emotion from the situation you will be able to think logically again and then do the things that will bring her back while avoiding the situations that will push her away. Keep all of this in mind when you're tempted to get upset or do something crazy to get her back. There is power in keeping a cool mind and a level head when dealing with your girlfriend or wife. You can do this. You can get her back.
Now, it doesn't matter if we're talking about your wife or your girlfriend. The pain from a breakup and the way that women behave in either relationship is exactly the same. A piece of paper and sworn oaths have been proven in today's society to carry as much weight as the paper they're written on. The process of getting from being broken up to getting back together are also the same. The process or stages that we're going to talk about will bring you to the point where you will have that opportunity to rebuild your relationship and it is based upon military principles. If these principles can get a combat veteran through a difficult time emotionally then they can bring you through your pain as well.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Beating yourself up or being upset with yourself over something that you did in the past is not healthy or helpful. You can see that you did things wrong but it is simply impossible to change the past. Removing the emotions from these incidents is necessary for your healing as well as for your success in the future. You are like a soldier who is learning from a past battle and becoming educated about what works and what doesn't. Freeing yourself from this emotional baggage is necessary for your success in the future. You are living and learning from the past.
In the next step you will be rebuilding yourself back into the man that you once were, but better. You have been through a lot so you deserve to be treated well. This means taking some time to decompress and enjoy your life for a short while before it is time to get back to work. This is called rest and relaxation. Do the things that make you happy and which make life worth living. Rest assured in knowing that you have the ability to get your girlfriend or wife back but right now is your moment to do some things that bring a smile to your face.
While many soldier go a little crazy and begin drinking like fish, you might want to avoid alcohol for the moment. It might be tempting to party hardy but this kind of activity can sometimes cause even the strongest man to fall back into old patterns of behavior. A moment of weakness might cause you to call your ex and proclaim your undying love for her or even want to see her again so you can tell her how much better you're feeling. Avoid this temptation at all cost. This is not the time to see your girlfriend and you should be strong and of sober mind when that moment does come. You need to have your life together completely before initiating contact with your ex. Get out of town or visit friends for a weekend. Go to the shore or to another city to allow yourself to unwind and decompress. This might help you to avoid the desire to see your ex also.
When you return home, it's time to start getting back into shape mentally, emotionally and physically. It's time to start taking care of yourself and training for your big comeback. It's time to education yourself about relationships and how women behave in relationships. Look at this as your training to get back in there and win your ex girlfriend or wife back. Learn about her, what makes her tick and why she reacts the way that she does when she's in a relationship. Women behave much differently than men. They are emotional. Men are logical. Train that logical part of your brain to target her emotions and you will be well on your way to winning her back.
Getting your girlfriend or wife back might seem impossible at this moment but, as you can see, it is a simple process of moving past the pain and hurt, rebuilding yourself and then understanding and doing those things that will attract her again. You have the advantage in this situation. You have a logical mind. Once you remove the emotion from the situation you will be able to think logically again and then do the things that will bring her back while avoiding the situations that will push her away. Keep all of this in mind when you're tempted to get upset or do something crazy to get her back. There is power in keeping a cool mind and a level head when dealing with your girlfriend or wife. You can do this. You can get her back.
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